Emotional roller coasters
Want to learn how to ride the up’s and down’s?
One minute I’m feeling high as a kite and loving my life, trusting in myself and feeling joy when new like-minded people and events appear on my path. Life is so good, I feel confident and have a sense of purpose.
The next day (sometimes minute!) I am overcome with self-doubt and worry that I might not be heading to where my heart desires, or at least not quickly enough.
How to ride the emotional roller coaster and survive!
First you must realise that emotions (good and bad) are like water currents that start with a trickle and end in a raging rapid depending on how much attention we give them.
By law of attraction if you give a good feeling thought attention, more will come, just the same as if you give a bad feeling attention more will come.
Feeling good
- When you are on a good feeling thought ‘milk’ that feeling for as long as you can so you can drum it up into a raging rapid
- Start by purposely thinking how good it feels to feel so good!
- Take a moment to revel in it, feel it wash all over your body, say out loud I really love feeling in the flow (happy, safe, appreciated, acknowledged and so on)
- Then take note when you feel good again (evidence that more of the same is coming to you) and do the same process.
NOTE this only works if you are feeling good to start with.
Feeling slightly bad
- When you feel a little bad – acknowledge that feeling negative is yuck in general but never the less, a common part of life, and that feeling a little bad (trickle) is much less painful than a full blown negative attack (raging rapid)
- When dealing with a trickle you may be able to sooth yourself into a slightly better feeling thought, and then another and another.
- For example say a challenging situation comes up and you are feeling doubtful that you can handle it. Think of a similar situation in the past where circumstance forced you to step up and you managed just fine, you may have even surprised yourself how well you coped. This should instantly change your feeling of doubt into hope. You go even go one step further and say to yourself, ‘the universe never puts something in front of me that I cannot handle’.
NOTE you cannot go from anger to love its too bit of a jump, just think of a slightly better thought and work your way up.
The aim is to stop the trickle from gaining momentum, and soothe it back down to a positive.
Feeling terribe!
OK, for a full-blown negative attack, the one where you are all of a sudden not good enough, life’s crap and the world is ending. You are in the raging rapid..
You need to:
- Take a nap
- Go to bed
- Write the day off and start again tomorrow.
You see by calling time out you hit the ‘reboot’ button, if you persist to try and swim against the rapid you are only engraining it further and calling more of the same to you.
Sleep is the easiest way to temporarily disconnect from negativity. Tomorrow is a new day, and who doesn’t love the feeling of sleep anyway?